Thursday, September 23, 2010

Be More Positive … Arggg!

Yesterday I visited my Chiro to have my tight calves stretched and massaged. After some small talk he said, I sure can see that you are being more positive … referring to my attitude dealing with cancer … I guess.

Of course the hair on the back of my neck stood up because I’ve heard more than enough times that I should try and be more positive … so just the sound of the word makes me defensive. Anyways, I said yes I probably am but that is likely because I haven’t had chemo in a couple of months and I’m feeling more like my old self. My energy is up, the world isn’t so foggy.

I need to rant … When you are on chemo; you’re way too tired to put on a smiley face for everyone. That doesn’t mean you are a negative person. It’s just means that putting on a false front for the world is not a priority. Most times, it’s that simple.

12 comments:

Pateeta said...

Yes, I definitely have some new priorities after all this. Hope the chiro helped and you feel better every day. :)

Patty

WhiteStone said...

I love it..."putting on a false front for the world is not a priority!" Daria, you stated that very well! lol

Janell said...

When positive thinking fixes a broken arm, I'll start using it during cancer treatment. Until such time, I will remain a defensive pessimist.

Anonymous said...

Hey Daria! I'm Audrey Ravndahl's niece and I work at the Canadian Cancer Society. I'm sorry I didn't get to meet you at the Volunteer Dinner - hopefully we will meet in the near future.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Keep fighting :)

julie said...

I agree! I think we have earned the right to feel however we do & express it however we want.
And in answer to all those people who think all we need is a good attitude, there was a recent study that found personality had no impact on cancer survival (http://www.reuters.com/article/idUSTRE67C2O920100813).
But glad your energy is up:)

Sue in Italia/In the Land Of Cancer said...

Oh those positive thinking police!
And you are positive most of the time but you don't have to be and we'll love you just the same.

Julie Evans said...

Well put. From someone who has been there, done that, let me just say Amen. And rant away, sweet Daria! You are a positive vibe making beautiful music in this world. And I'm praying for you and love ya. Cheers and love, Joules

Bernie said...

I don't believe I have met anyone living with cancer more positive than you my friend. Hey when they are walking in your shoes they can make all the remarks they want in the meantime don't you change anything, your perfect just the way you are.........:-)Hugs

joanlil said...

Daria - so well expressed. Yes, I try to be positive - but I sometimes wonder if that is actually a form of denial. I have advanced cancer and the drugs aren't working. Why should I have to put on a smiley face?

Nancy said...

Daria, I can so totally relate! I sometimes (like yesterday after session 6 of chemo) have absolutely no desire to even fake a positive attitude.That can just be too tiring. We have to be allowed to feel our true feelings.

kim said...

Urrrgghhhhh to the positive thinking! Even people who aren't facing health challenges are always positive. That was one thing that really bugged me when I was first diagnosed...people would say, "Well, your so positive, you will beat cancer." I finally started saying, "If my positiveness could beat cancer, than I shouldn't have got cancer in the first place!" Just sharing your rant!@! :):)


From what you write and share with us, I think your doing great!

Keep on, keeping on!!

nollyposh said...

i so agree (((hugs)))