tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post2039834936044874339..comments2023-04-05T08:30:53.471-06:00Comments on Living with Cancer: Avoid The "Have Tos" And "Need Tos"Dariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10806073037988154854noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-61309353838157600492009-04-11T11:26:00.000-06:002009-04-11T11:26:00.000-06:00Daria have a wonderful Easter doing whatever it is...Daria have a wonderful Easter doing whatever it is you want to do.<BR/><BR/>Love Renee xoxoReneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11785932958464359112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-25595926684201387872009-04-10T08:28:00.000-06:002009-04-10T08:28:00.000-06:00"NO" is the shortest word and yet the ha..."NO" is the shortest word and yet the hardest to say for too many reasons we can't often figure out as women ....<BR/><BR/>Do YOU Daria... !!<BR/><BR/>Peace & Blessings Alli...xAllihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01948469302534409133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-32470609684485920452009-04-10T05:25:00.000-06:002009-04-10T05:25:00.000-06:00IT took me a while to just learn to say No!Or no t...IT took me a while to just learn to say No!Or no thanks. And get that I did not owe anyone an explanation.<BR/>finally it clicked. It takes a while to know what clicks for you plus each situation is different. <BR/>I remember sleeping when the kids went to school so I could handle their care after school. That was tough. While some stayed in denial about my situation others realized I had to do what I could do and that was it. <BR/>There are so many sides of cancer that's why writing about its a good thing. I think at times the emotional and mental part of cancer is harder then physical. So its good you talked about it as well. It provides a clear view on how to handle things.<BR/>Take care of you.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02553534265223827573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-11326840851296999262009-04-10T00:48:00.000-06:002009-04-10T00:48:00.000-06:00yes- its amazing the pressure we put ourselves und...yes- its amazing the pressure we put ourselves under with our 'have to's' etc.......<BR/>i often suffer from being overwhelmed and it is always my expectations of me that are the cause xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15047696858755347818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-88002024208504310272009-04-09T22:32:00.000-06:002009-04-09T22:32:00.000-06:00Oh Daria, I feel so privileged to have the opportu...Oh Daria, I feel so privileged to have the opportunity to read your Post and others. I know this information will be absolutely essential to me once we find out what is going on in this body of mine.<BR/>I have been taking morphine since January to deal with the pain during the search for the cause. Has the cancer spread? Looking at the anatomy of the Brachial Plexus frightens me as I suffer nerve pain and I can see the number of nerves involved in the region of the breast lump.<BR/>I can focus only on myself at this time; it is such a struggle to keep appointments and wait for tests. I think I know what is is like for you!<BR/>You take care of yourself Daria and may you be surrounded by love and friendship that lightens the load.<BR/>May your Easter be blessed and your load lighterCherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01334065619837967170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-8423328533272327812009-04-09T19:03:00.000-06:002009-04-09T19:03:00.000-06:00Your psychologist is a very wise woman!! Learning...Your psychologist is a very wise woman!! Learning to let go; learning what matters; learning what we women have a hard time learning, no matter what our situation in life -- that it is okay to say "no" and that's all. "No thank you" suffices. We don't need to explain or apologize but we quite often forget to put ourselves first. Right now in your life Daria, putting yourself first is the priority. Have a blessed and enjoyable Easter weekend, however you choose to spend it!Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08271529958269038071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-20820876078499522532009-04-09T16:30:00.000-06:002009-04-09T16:30:00.000-06:00You know, feeling overwhelmed happens to me out of...You know, feeling overwhelmed happens to me out of the blue. Sometimes with no warning at all. I find that when I 'fall apart' it's time to start praying.Debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09531125606268748793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-90922566068444652122009-04-09T15:58:00.000-06:002009-04-09T15:58:00.000-06:00I am glad you were able to get some answers to som...I am glad you were able to get some answers to some of the issues that were bothering you. The important person here is YOU and only you know much you can do.Try not to worry what other people think ...I had to stop doing that as well.<BR/>Daria...just look after yourself this holiday weekend and do what you want to do.This is your time!<BR/>Gentle hugs<BR/>Jill.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03978632234049776290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-61177649590331937362009-04-09T15:28:00.000-06:002009-04-09T15:28:00.000-06:00Most excellent. You certainly don't have to do any...Most excellent. <BR/><BR/>You certainly don't have to do anything you don't want to.<BR/><BR/>Now you just have to accept that and not feel guilty about it.<BR/><BR/>You are your number one priority here!<BR/><BR/>As you should be :)Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00816138640432897870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-55673301408359405972009-04-09T15:08:00.000-06:002009-04-09T15:08:00.000-06:00Good post Daria!xoxoxoGood post Daria!<BR/>xoxoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-3585253371030735552009-04-09T14:42:00.000-06:002009-04-09T14:42:00.000-06:00I think that is great advice and it took me a whil...I think that is great advice and it took me a while to figure all that out on my own, but its all true! I also think that blogging is a great way to deal with the emotions of cancer. When I blog its like I let that thing that is bothering me go. Its on the page and no longer weighs me down. Before I started blogging I felt sick all the time, was so unhappy and unhealthy. I hope that you are doing well and thank you for the comment today :)<BR/><BR/>xoxo<BR/>MeaghanMeaghanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09225824099156032765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-13843444273926787432009-04-09T14:36:00.001-06:002009-04-09T14:36:00.001-06:00YEAHI am glad you mentioned the over stimulation. ...YEAH<BR/>I am glad you mentioned the <BR/>over stimulation. I found that<BR/>to be an issue with ME. too much<BR/>noise, lights, foks around and I'd just <BR/>have to HIDE.<BR/><BR/>Tis so good to talk to someone<BR/>who can just listen .SweetAnneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13707990672213846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3479782985101649883.post-60142048280552350692009-04-09T14:20:00.000-06:002009-04-09T14:20:00.000-06:00I went back and reread the last few posts you wrot...I went back and reread the last few posts you wrote, and believe me, it was good for ME! I know exactly how you have been feeling, and I'm finding myself hiding away more and more lately. I've been overwhelmed by things, and anything that has a "have to" or a "need to" attached to throws me over the edge. You are definitely NOT alone on this one! And the advice you got is right on. I know I just need space -- space to figure out my own feelings and thoughts, space to then let them out freely, space to just do nothing and say nothing, etc. This whole cancer thing plays havoc with your mind and emotions, and I'm finding it takes LOTS of time to figure it all out. I always thought I had it all together -- well, I don't!! Not even near it! Don't even know if I ever will, and don't know if I care if I do or not. Glad to see you are free to blog about it all. It's a great thing for me to read your blog as it encourages ME to be honest and open about everything, too! Thanks for that!<BR/>CoraCora from Hidden Richeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11066244776488896258noreply@blogger.com